How To Have Appropriate Self-Esteem

I'll teach you how to have *Appropriately Lofty Self-Esteem* and achieve a powerfully wonderful place, called "Self-Appreciation"
You begin with recognizing two things:

1 - Your self-esteem is how you estimate yourself (as opposed to the 'ego' which is "outward-directed", which I'll talk about another time, your self-esteem is internally-generated).

2. Your "self-confidence" is *what you know you can do*. In essence - you CANNOT be confident at something you haven't acted on EVEN WHEN you estimate highly of yourself in your own theorizing and imagining. (i.e. you can read all the book you want on how to ride a bike. Once you've ridden a bike, you'll know exactly where your confidence lies)

To have *self-appreciation* you must:

HAVE THE SAME LEVEL OF SELF-ESTEEM THAT YOU HAVE OF SELF-CONFIDENCE

Remember this always: To estimate of yourself more than what you know you can do (e.g., to have higher self-esteem than your confidence) inevitably leads to disappointment (and when communicated, others' disappointment, and even rage, at you for not demonstrating so).

To estimate less of yourself from what you know you can do (e.g., to have lower self-esteem than your confidence) is symptomatic of other things that must be explored and rooted out (shame, guilt, a pesky ego, etc)

When you've come to the level where you estimate exactly what you're confident - in other words, you estimate of yourself what you know you can do - without any aggrandizing, boasting, pretending, false expectations - you will have come to a wonderful place of self-appreciation where you are comfortable with who you are and appreciate that you can have lofty self-estimation and be able to continue making attempts towards those things you want.

PS - High self-esteem is different from goals. You MUSTN'T have aggrandized self-estimation but you CAN have great and far-reaching goals!