To Truly Love Someone, You Must…
The only way to *ensure* that each of you have the option to choose is to ongoingly HAVE OTHER options.
In traditional-style relationships, when you grant yourself to the other person and they grant themselves to you, the *inevitable* result is the death-knell of all relationships: each of you will both feel and be taken for granted.
That is an absolute certainty to either the end of the relationship or a long and miserable one.
In fact, “jealousy” is merely your ego screaming at you, “If I gave my beloved the option to choose, they might not come back to me!” Feeling that rage from that fear of loss is what jealousy is.
So, get rid of that jealousy. Open that relationship. Relationships have no chance of endurance unless and until it’s open!
When you’re certain your partner has choice and despite that choice their remaining with you will their actually being with YOU mean anything.
Only when your partner is certain you’ve got choice and despite that choice your desiring to be with them will your being with them be significant.