The Truth About “Belonging”
Belonging is a misnomer. My Breitling Navigator wristwatch cannot feel longing or any other emotion. It doesn’t care whose wrist it sits on, but *I* certainly care – hence, the watch *cannot* belong to me… instead, *I* “belong to it” when I *feel* a *longing* for it.
To be clear, *only* when a person feels the emotion of longing can they say they ‘belong’. When you feel a longing for someone, you can say you belong to them. But, you can never say they belong to you until you’re certain they feel a *longing* for you. Truly, only *they* can say that.
When you both, simultaneously, feel a genuine longing for one each other, and your recognizing you *belong* with one another, will you be in a terrific place in your relationship called *mutual belonging*.