How To Deal With Annoying People
I Share With You 3 Psychological Strategies So You Know How To Deal With Annoying People
There’s never any need to suffer from anyone’s misdeeds, missteps, mistakes, miscalibrations, unsavory, or any other off-putting behavior or remark.
In fact, I contend, there’s never any need to suffer at all!
It also doesn’t mean you’d have to be emotionless. You can be annoyed but not angry. You can be disappointed but not tormented.
I’ll present you 3 paradigmatic shifts for your edification:
- No one and nothing can make you feel any which way until and unless you choose to. One of my favorite things to ask someone that just boggles their mind and inevitably fries their thought processes: “Hey, can you make me angry?” They say, “Oh yeah!”. I laugh! The funniest (and most amusing thing ever) is someone trying to make me angry!You see, no one can make me angry unless I choose to be angry. Let me put it another way: If I didn’t mean to give you something, and you take it, THAT’S THEFT!
If I didn’t mean to give you offense, and you take offense, well that’s stealing! In other words, whatever you’re trying to give me, my not accepting it ensures I don’t have any of it.
- People do the best they can with the resources they have. I don’t mean material, I mean intellectual and social. Some people are just so socially or intellectually uncalibrated, they just have no clue what they’re doing.Don’t take offense to that, just take it as an opportunity to communicate more clearly and educate them on what you’d like to expect of them, because otherwise, there are 3.5 billion other people whom haven’t met you yet whom you could be meeting (and if you’re bisexual, there are 7 billion other people whom you could be meeting you lucky bastard
- ALL relationships (friendships, loverships, business) always stand to become better when expectations are clear!Be clear in your communication. Be certain of what you’d accept in a person and be clear of what you’re not prepared to tolerate. THIS MAKES YOU NON-JUDGMENTAL.
If I accept a person for they are, I’m COMPLETELY accepting, imperfections and all. If they’re not someone I can tolerate, there are many other someones I could be meeting.
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